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Radical or Radical?

We use radical to mean revolutionary and extreme. However, the original meaning is really ' going back to the roots, or original intent.

 

Despite the variance, I don't think these two definitions conflict. Getting things back to the original intent is hard. It often takes revolutionary and extreme measures to make it happen. 

- Getting your body back to how it was when you were 21.
- Breathing life back into your career. 
- God restoring mankind back to Garden of Eden status.

We Never Change, Do We?

I want to be someone who is constantly becoming what I was made to be. Getting back to my original intent. I don’t want life to just happen to me, and look up one day simply being the sum of the influences and events around me. I want to happen to life. 

To do this I have to regularly check myself. I have to look inward, contemplatively. Am I who I want to be? Am I doing what I want to do? What do I spend my time, energy, thought life, money and breath on? 

Most of the time if we do this, we don’t like the answers. So we set ideals of what we want to be, and goals to get there, but find we can’t meet them.

Priority Plumb Line

I propose, instead of setting reactionary goals from anxious self-dissapointment, that we take an honest look at ourselves, at what God says about who He made all of us to be, and factor in specifics on who we know he has called us to be personally, then set some life priorities. We often don’t change because we either change our goals too much, so we never have time to progress, or we are striving to be something we aren’t supposed to be in the first place (examples: perfect, someone else, etc). We have to have a plumb line: a consistent priority list to aggressively go after - and grit through for the long haul.

 Plumb line: (n.) a tool that consists of a small, heavy object attached to a string or rope and that is used to see if something (such as a wall) is perfectly vertical

I have a list of 15 radical life priorities. A list of who I want to be, and what I want to do. I keep it in the back of my Bible so I see it regularly. When I see it, I don’t feel condemned, but encouraged by the Holy Spirit to keep pushing onward, and He gives me strategy on how to accomplish them. 

Here is my list, with some key notes below each:

1. Love God, Jesus, Holy Spirit
-Uncompromisingly abandoned

2. Love Sherei
- More than myself, intentionally communicating and taking on dates

3. Love others
- Relationship over vision

4. Make Disciples
- Teach them to obey all that Jesus has commanded 

5. Read Scripture daily
- Man lives on the word of God 

6. Worship Freely
- Radically, with dove eyes, alone, in a group

7. Exercise Daily
- My body is a temple

8. Read/talk/pray more
- Tv/movies/apps less

9. Be led by the Spirit
- Ask each day: “What do you have for me today?"

10. Be a good steward of $$
- give extravagantly, pay debt, save, spend well

11. Be good steward of time
- Calendar, to-do list

12. Live as a pioneer
- Fearless adventurer, dream, believe

13. Pray without ceasing
-  Prayer closet, asking “What does wisdom look like?”, with others

14. Family
- Keep up with, pray, visit

15. Nature
- Run away, get lost, fall down

 

What would be your radical life priorities? 

I encourage you to write them out. Put them somewhere that matters. And don’t give up.

God has started a revolution in the world, getting it back to its original intent, and he wants to partner with you - but the radical revolution has to start in you first.

 

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I found my BFF in my husband

What I'm listening too //  Michael Ketterer & Laura Hackett The Rock

This time 4 years ago I was 2 weeks out from marrying Daniel. Pinterest wasn't really a thing, and I was toting around a huge notebook (thank you Carly) with 'pinned' ideas for the big day. I had my 15 bridesmaids on speed dial, and had created some sort of wedding craft army. 

In those days, and even the months leading up to our wedding, my thoughts were consumed with the immediacy of the wedding. I had no real perspective for the coming marriage, and how it would change the course of my life. I knew that I was preparing to make a covenant with Daniel, but I had no real knowledge on what my new life would be like, or what it would mean. 

My parents were both in the military, and so I grew up all over the place. I've always made friends easily, and am a natural social bug. Even though I've been blessed to find a new hood rat group of friends wherever I may call home, I've always had this overwhelming desire for a best friend - one that would be thicker than blood. I've had some GREAT friends in my life. I've experienced deep community, and have been so blessed by the various circles of friends I've experienced. And though I count myself very blessed with friends and family, there's always been this - gap. 

Being an army kid means you're late to the train of friendship. Try as a might, some friendships really do mature and become precious with time. Time often wins. Despite my efforts to be lovable, cool, funny - the friend who sticks around the longest is the one who gets the BFF title, and to put it simply I'm normally the 'newcomer' in a crowd. Even now, at 26, I'm moving to Charlotte where I'm in intimate friendship with a total sum of 0 people. I'll be the new kid again. 

This time of year marks 4 years of marriage with Daniel. 5 Years together and a near 6 years of friendship. Without me really realizing it, he's becoming my longest and deepest known friend. 

I'm so thankful for Daniel's friendship. It's filled up a gap in my heart that I've longed for my entire life. As much as Jesus is perfect, beautiful, and deeply fullfilling, he did ALSO create us for community. He did give the second commandment. He does want us to know and experience love with God - and with each other. I have experienced love that I've never known from being Daniel's friend. I've decided that Daniel is my best friend forever, and I can exhale, resting in the peace of knowing this friendship is for life, separated only by death. 

So how has my life changed, now that I've experienced having a BFF?

Being married to Daniel has given me confidence. 

I'm not a people pleaser, and tend to tell it how it is. I've never really struggled with confidence, but it's incredible how Daniel's friendship has released total new levels of confidence in me. As Daniel loves me, supports me, encourages me, and just sticks with me - I learn more and more about God's astounding faithfulness. Daniel has literally seen me at my worst. When I'm my ugliest, meanest, craziest, most irrational - and he is faithful. This type of - I love you and I'll never leave you - dedication of Daniel has given me a lot of new found confidence. I gained 50 pounds. He didn't go anywhere. I wrestled with depression that kept me in bed. He didn't go anywhere. I got into really big stupid fights with my sisters. He didn't go anywhere. I tried to color my hair mint green - it turned out a mildew gold. He didn't go anywhere. That type of faithfulness will give you wings. Before I preach, before I lead, before I stand up for something I believe in - I glance over at Daniel. Fear subsides, and I see the Love of God manifest in his confident and assuring gaze. His love give me confidence. 

Being married to Daniel has given me boldness. 

I am bold. But I do second guess. Daniel is there at night, to dream big dreams with. To bounce off ideas. To build websites with and a constant travel buddy. With Daniel I've traveled coast to shining coast. Gone to what feels like the ends of the earth for the sake of the gospel. If you know Daniel, you know he's a peaceful man. He's calming presence has given me assurance that it's okay to be bold, it's okay to dream big, it's okay to be loud - I won't scare him away. He is a dream breather, and I feel the most bold when I see him in the audience, cheering me on. He reminds me of Jesus because he is relentless in his encouragement, faith in me, and dreams of the future.

Being married to Daniel has given me joy. 

I'm an extrovert, so naturally I really do think that everything is better with 2. We share a car and have always worked in the same place, so Daniel is a constant witness to everything in my life. And that makes life fun. Yesterday I was picking up medicine from the pharmacy and I was explaining to the pharmacist that my whole family got sick while on a vacation to Puerto Rico. A old man next to me said, "Puerto Rico! My wife just got back from Panama and she's go the SAME THING". I politely smiled and tried to bite my lip. As we walked away Daniel said with a wicked grin, "Germany! My wife just got back from Sweden and she's Got the SAME THING!" We broke into a silly fit of laughter, then mortified laughter as we realized the poor old man may have heard our mischievous joke. I'm sorry old man! We weren't trying to make fun of you. 

That's what life with Daniel is like. I can be serious, hard headed, and stubborn to an absolute default. Just when I'm determined to be mad at Daniel over something really silly - he makes the goofiest face at me or carries Avery (our boxer) over to me as a peace keeper. Having Daniel's friendship has just brought me so much joy. 

It's Simple.

Marriage is good. Marriage has been medicine for my heart. It gets better every year. We were made for friendships like this - covenant friendships. 

Let marriage be held in honor among all... - Hebrews 13:4


Sherei

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Moving to Charlotte Update

 

Author // Sherei

What I'm listening to // Break Every Chain: Will Reagan & the United Pursuit Band

It's been a wild ride of summer! So far it's been Birmingham, Nashville, Jacksonville, Puerto Rico, Charlotte, Dothan, and Panama City Beach. I'm tan...word.

We just got back from Puerto Rico and are crashing at our sister and brother-in-law's house in Brevard, NC right now, commuting into Charlotte during the day for interviews, to check out housing, and to get things squared away at Gordon Conwell. 

We met with our advisor yesterday and I cried...2 times. Once during his closing prayer in our meeting and again when I was standing in a classroom. When I was a little 17 year old girl, I longed to go to a place where I could receive a Christian education, giving myself fully to the learning of scripture. It was important to my dad that I earn my college degree at a secular university first. Going to seminary has been a near 10 year dream in the making. I am excited - crying level excited - to have a consecrated season of studying and understanding God's word. Thank you seems too small of a phrase for all of those who have encouraged, poured resources, and helped Daniel and I get to this point. Nonetheless...thank you. 

A few things to celebrate so far:

  • Our classes have lined up so that I can continue to work a near full-time job during the semester & we will have a lot of room in our schedule to travel for speaking & worship leading opportunities
  • Daniel and I are getting to take the majority of our courses together
  • WE GOT THE TEAM MINISTRY GRANT SCHOLARSHIP! This scholarship is available to married couples who are enrolled full time at GCTS. It gives me a partial tuition scholarship. 
  • Some great housing opportunities are on the horizon. We found a flyer for a home on the student job board at GCTS. The house is a 2 bedroom, on an acre of land, and the rent would be low enough that the money we save can help cover the other half of my tuition! It's a local family home that is used specifically to bless GCTS students. We tour it on Saturday, and I'm praying it's the perfect fit. Daniel and I have also narrowed down the search to 3 apartment communities and 1 townhouse. Please pray that the we find a home of peace to live in where we can study together, a place that Avery pup can play, and a place that we can gather new friends and host community nights. 
  • My contract graphic design work with FundtheNations has been steady and so enjoyable! I have a second interview at another part-time opportunity on Monday that I'm excited about. Please pray that the perfect work situation irons out for us to be able to graduate debt free while we earn our degrees. 

The next few weeks:

  • Decide on housing
  • Decide on jobs
  • Buy books, start working on syllabus work
  • Have a big fat Nashville Yard sale
  • If time allows, spend some time in Nashville visiting with friends, flipping some furniture pieces, and writing
  • Rent a U-Haul and OFFICIALLY MOVE TO CHARLOTTE

Our deadline to be in Charlotte full time is Aug 22 (orientation), but we are praying things work out to land sooner. 

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